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3 Month Program

You want your marriage to be the most important thing in your life and you’re craving more emotional intimacy and open communication with your husband (AKA my super powers). Ready to stop feeling like roommates and start putting your marriage at the top of your priority list again? Let’s work together! My 3 month Married AF Coaching Program takes you from feeling like roommates stuck in routine to feeling like newly wed lovers again!

Price: $500/Month x 3

Marriage Coaching


The Married AF Membership is an online community of married womxn just like you! Every month I run social events (virtual and in person), exclusive in depth masterclasses on all things marriage, and live Q&A coaching sessions, all for the price of a coffee a week. Come join the Married AF community! 

Price: $25NZD/Month

Not currently Taking new members 


Getting married soon? Want to start get your marriage off to the best start where you have open communication, great sex, healthy boundaries and know how to put each other first even when life gets busy? Book in a pre-marriage session with your partner! This will give you tools to keep the spark alive after you say I do by setting up your joint Value System as a married couple

Price: $197NZD x 1 ($147 x3)

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Lucy Bekker, Relationship Coach


I’m kind of an expert at being in an epic marriage. The kind that people come to me for advice on.

But my ex-boyfriends before Carl might not agree. 

When I was younger, I believed I was too loud, too emotional, too overwhelming in relationships. I got told that my romantic gestures were “kind of intense”. I genuinely believed that this was as good as love got for someone as broken as me, and would convince myself that what I was happy with that level of love. I used sex as a way to AVOID emotional intimacy, and I ended up cheating on just about every partner I had because I was searching for someone to meet me in the depths.

Everything changed when I learned to communicate my needs, accept the parts of me that craved a wild love, lean into my partner for exclusive emotional intimacy, and love relentlessly without holding back.

Now? I have a marriage that other people look up to.

And I’m going to help you have the same open emotional connection with your husband.

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