Lucy Bekker, Relationship Coach


I’m kind of an expert at being in an epic marriage. The kind that people come to me for advice on.

But my ex-boyfriends before Carl might not agree. 

When I was younger, I believed I was too loud, too emotional, too overwhelming in relationships. I got told that my romantic gestures were “kind of intense”. I genuinely believed that this was as good as love got for someone as broken as me, and would convince myself that what I was happy with a frankly mediocre level of love. I used sex as a way to AVOID emotional intimacy, and I ended up cheating on just about every partner I had because I was searching for someone to meet me in the depths.

Everything changed when I learned to communicate my needs, accept the parts of me that craved a wild love, lean into my partner for exclusive emotional intimacy, and love relentlessly without holding back.

Now? I have a marriage that other people look up to.

And I’m going to help you have the same open emotional connection with your husband.

Anniversaries Celebrated


Love of pornstar martinis

Candles in our house currently


Chance that I'm dancing atm

My Relationship Coaching Is For You If…

✔️ You feel like you can’t say what you’re really thinking to your husband 

✔️  You feel like you have lost the connection you had with your husband when you first got married 

✔️  You feel like your relationship has gotten a bit flat and you are both lost in the mundane routines of everyday life 

✔️  You’re craving more open communication with your husband so that you can have tough conversations without fighting